Hello everyone. This past September I was in Mississippi working as a mental health responder for the American Red Cross in Hurricane Katrina relief. This experience had a great impact on my life in ways I could not have foreseen. In thinking back, the people I met and their responses to the difficult, even near impossible aspects of their experiences renewed long standing beliefs that I have as a counselor. Specifically, that people often find within themselves the strength they need to cope, that a persons’ pre-existing beliefs about themselves and the world will play a big part in how they deal with a situation, and finally that people can learn to examine their beliefs and focus on those that will help them cope in difficult times.
Increasing attention is given to the notion of “Resilience” and “Positive Psychology”. By building on strengths and assets, people can better respond in the face of everyday life stress and even major calamities they are sometimes faced with. I plan to write more about resilience and assets at a later time, but for now I would love to know your thoughts.

Hello Concerned Mom,
Thank you for writing. First of all, I would ask some questions of you regarding this situation. You mentioned that the girls’ mom is aware of the problem. Do you know if she has taken any action toward seeking assistance for her daughter? Perhaps a good starting place would be for you to gently express your observation or concerns to the girl’s mother.

Anorexia Nervosa is a disorder in which a person experiences the loss of more than 15% of body weight which occurs as a deliberate result of a distortion of body image. Anorexia can be a serious, life threatening disorder. Early diagnosis and intervention offers the best chance for recovery. It is important that professional help be sought immediately and include a physical exam by a physician and a psychological evaluation. Mentioning this to the girls’ mother may help. Also, please talk with your own daughter to help her understand ways she can help her friend. This would include providing support, encouragement and a listening ear for her friend, leaving the rest to the trained professional.

For further information on eating disorders, check out the following websites: www.anred.com or www.aedweb.org .

Hi Julie,

I’m a concerned Mom of a 16 year old girl that has a 17 year old friend who has been loosing weight rapidly lately….. Had a very tiny little figure to start with, but doesn’t see that when she looks in the mirror…. Her Mom is aware of the problem… but I would like to know what I can do to help? The girl knows she has an issue.. so is it better for me to just not mention it.. and love her like I always have? or to sit down and talk to her? My daughter says she’s tired of people talking to her about it.. but I am just so concerned. What are symptoms to watch for that things are getting really out of hand?

Thanks.

Hello,
Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Julie Uhernik and I am a Counselor and an RN in private practice in Parker, CO. It is my career, and I believe my calling, to support and encourage people in creating the very best for their lives. Whether it is getting back on track, or even figuring out if there is a track at all, I am honored when I am able to assist! Indeed, the work I do gives me support and engages me in my own growth and journey as well. I would love to share with you some thoughts on topics that I find interesting and that make me think. Hope you will join me regularly! Julie